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Short pieces about starting conversations, staying in touch, and building friendships that last.

18 August 2026

Self-expression in conversation: stop performing, start showing up

We think good conversation means being interesting. The real move is being visible enough that the other person can actually meet you.

12 August 2026

What to do with what a stranger just said

A stranger just answered you and you have two seconds to reply. Catch, Aim, Respond is a small model for using those two seconds well.

10 August 2026

How to talk to strangers when you are not naturally good at it

Most of us never talk to strangers because we fear rejection. Research shows only about 13% of people reject an approach. The real problem is not a lack of words; it is the decision to move. This post introduces REACH, a five-phase map for the first three minutes of a talking to a stranger.

5 August 2026

You are not broken. You are undersupplied.

Loneliness is not a personality defect. It is a signal, like hunger, telling you a specific need is not being met. Change the diagnosis and the work changes with it.

1 August 2026

Why Mirroring Body Language Does Not Work

Copying someone's posture on purpose is one of the most repeated pieces of social advice there is. It also does not work, for three fairly simple reasons.

22 July 2026

The Liking Gap: Why You Underestimate How Much People Like You

Research shows that after a conversation, most of us systematically underestimate how much the other person liked us. Here is why that happens, and what to do about it.